Know Ya Flow
Women in flow, share what they know. Hear women's stories of how they've grown, what they know, and how they are living in flow.
Know Ya Flow
Human Design and Learning to Trust Your Unique Inner Wisdom
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I love this conversation with Brit, join us as we talk about Human Design and other things as tools l to learn more about ourselves to in turn be able to live more authentically.
Britt and I reflect on how these systems can foster an environment where individuality flourishes and healthy boundaries lead to a more authentic professional presence. The healing power of yoga, Reiki, and yoga nidra is also celebrated.
We wrap up with a glimpse into the world of Human Design, discussing the five types and their manifestation powers, and how these insights can lead to self-assertion in relationships. Britt excitedly shares about her upcoming Aura Archetype Human Design Reports and personalized readings, which promise a path to deeper self-exploration and alignment with your truest self. Whether you're finding purpose, seeking alignment, or discovering the joy of living in flow, this episode is a heartfelt invitation to a transformative journey.
Welcome to Know your Flow podcast, where women in flow share what they know. I'm your host, lauren Barton. Join me as we talk to women and hear their stories on what they know, how they've grown and living in flow Awesome, hi, britt, it's so good to be here. As I was just saying before we jumped on here. It's so good to be here with you and we get to chat for like an hour, so I'm excited. Same Thank you for having me. Yeah, absolutely Thanks for being here.
Speaker 1:So today we have Brit on the podcast and, um, brit and I met in Costa Rica. We were on a retreat and it was kind of cool because we connected a little bit. Like I think, um, I remember, um, a dinner with, like you and Kimothy. That was like such a sweet moment and I cherish that and I love that. And then, as we are leaving the resort or the retreat center, you know, you and I got to chit chat. For what was that? Like two hours on the way back to the airport, two, three, two, three hours, yeah, yeah, and it was just so good to connect and I feel like I feel like at the time we were both kind of in similar places, ish, like I feel like we were both kind of like in a transitional phase or kind of in like a vision for more for ourselves and for our lives, but kind of not knowing what to implement because there's so many options and so, yeah, so it's cool to come back together like a year, almost a year later, kind of not knowing what to implement because there's so many options and so, yeah, so it's cool to come back together like a year, almost a year later and kind of talk about different things that we've been into and it was so good to connect, so yeah. So what do you feel like has sort of transpired since Costa Rica? Or maybe we should start there, or let's actually just start a little bit about you in general, so like, who are you? What are you about? Um, why did you go to Costa Rica? Like there's so much we could unpack there and we definitely will.
Speaker 1:Yeah, um, oh, man, that is such a heavy weighted question. Um, right, I'm a human on earth. Um, I myself, um, a multi-dimensional healer. Uh, I'm a Gemini sun through and through in a manifesting generator and human design, and so with both of those comes a lot of interests, a lot of hobbies, a lot of deep dives. I also have my son in the 12th house, not to go deep into astrology, but in the, the house that's. That's where a lot of uh, spirituality and the deep darkness of of what's going on. And I've recently learned I have a hades moon, which I'm still learning about, which essentially means like you go to hell and back a lot, um and and not I don't, and maybe it isn't a bad way, I don't know but uh, you go to hell and back a lot, and part of that journey is it gets easier for you, but you are put on this earth as a means to help others do the same and weather challenges in their life and know that they're fully capable of getting it through. Getting through that and I would say learning that about myself recently like mind blown, because I feel a lot of that and so much that I do so.
Speaker 1:I consider myself a multidimensional healer and a creative doula. I really just love helping people unpack who they are and tap into their purpose and help them through the whole process, not just like help them launch and be like great. You know, you've got this. I'll cheer you on from the background, but as a yoga and meditation teacher too, being able to bring tools to the table to help people work through the postpartum experience of launching things, because there's always inherent lows whenever you're launching something or birthing something into the world, whether that is a human or it is a project or a passion. So that's really where I lie when I'm not working a nine to five job. But it's those things that I do outside of that nine to five that light me up and really put me in the best flow state possible. Yeah, I love that so much.
Speaker 1:I love what you said about being there for people like post launching things, because the birth is so much and the preparation for the birth is so much, and then we birth it and it's kind of like wait, where's support? And that's in real life, with real babies, I feel like, and then also in our creative babies as well. So that is so cool that you kind of tapped into that and know like, oh, to help people through that is huge, you know. Yeah, I mean I've seen my husband go through it as a musician a lot. You know, when he spends a lot of time in the studio, he comes out the other side feeling completely depleted and not in a bad way. You just poured your whole heart into a project and when you walk away from it it can be really hard.
Speaker 1:Like the feelings of imposter syndrome or inadequacy start to seep in, or you're like crap and are people gonna like this thing that I put into the world? And like everybody probably did at the beginning of the year, they probably read Rick Rubin's book, the Creative Act, and he talks a lot about in that book, about just create for the sake of creating and worry about the stuff like marketing and am I going to make money from this? After the fact? And while that's true, it doesn't take that postpartum dip out of the equation because we're humans, we're wired for human connection and we inherently want to feel like we belong, like um Kimothy he mentioned at um at the beginning, when she really finished writing her book, her second book there's a long time that just sits before your book is actually released. So there's a lot of time between when you finish a project and maybe when it is actually supposed to be birthed into the world, that you can have these dialogues with yourself where you're like and you need people to help get you out of that and help you realize like that's not the end. There's more to come and you have to take care of yourself and nurture yourself, just like a mom who had a baby did in the world. You have to take care of yourself. Yeah, absolutely.
Speaker 1:What types of things do you feel like are the support that you can offer people in that sort of transition? Or whether that be chemistry or husband or people that you work with, like, what do you feel like is the most helpful or different tools that help? Yeah, I really like to tailor what I'm doing with clients based on their needs, but I tend to come back to the same tools like yoga and meditation or core what I do, and whether that's sharing recordings or live meditations or, you know, doing classes, whether that's in person if I'm lucky enough to work with a client in person or over zoom any of those mindfulness practices are really helpful for bringing us back into our bodies and quieting the mind. So I definitely come back to those a lot, but I tap into tools like astrology and chakras and human design.
Speaker 1:Is is the one area where I probably spend the most of my energy on, because it was a system and a tool that really unlocked a lot of awareness about myself that I felt, especially growing up feeling as though I was weird for having so many interests or changing my mind a lot. And human design was the first time where I felt like, oh, that's okay. And other people's discomfort with the fact that I changed my mind all the time is purely that. It's their discomfort, there's nothing actually wrong with me. So I use that tool a lot because it it allows people to come back to well, where's my authority and how am I supposed to make decisions? And again, like all systems, there's parts that may resonate and parts that don't. But I found that every client I've ever worked with has found multitudes within the system of human design and astrology to some degree to just like feel seen more than anything. And then you know tarot and um other other tools like um oracle decks I'll infuse in, especially if people just feel like they need guidance or to take what they've already said.
Speaker 1:Sometimes when we say things out loud, or even to ourselves, we don't listen to them. But if people can regurgitate them in another way or hear them through a different medium, it can be really helpful for them. Yeah, I mean that all makes sense. And like starting with meditation, yoga, I mean, because really, at the end of the day we're trying to get out of the mind. It's really just your mind, you know that's messing with you and telling you, oh, maybe nobody's going to care about this, oh, it's not, maybe not going to work. Why'd you do all that effort, all that chatter? You know as much as we can reaffirm get it out of our systems and then get out of our mind and come back into balance. But unfortunately it's going to keep happening where, like, we go back into that imposter syndrome and back and all of those things. You know, yeah, it's really hard to undo patterns and it's it's helpful.
Speaker 1:Through my own talk therapy journey I've really found and I have an amazing therapist that I love, but she also practices somatic therapy and she's a yoga teacher. She embodies a lot of the things that I have personal values on. I think that's so important in whatever healer you work with. That's helped me realize how important being mirrors for humans, like for each other, is, and it doesn't always have to be a therapist. It can be a friend or a coach and a family member or whomever you feel like you are comfortable and vulnerable enough to have those hard conversations and sometimes we can be a mirror and sometimes we can be a window, because we need people to not just reflect back what we do, but also be along with us in the journey. That is so true.
Speaker 1:I love the mirrors for others. You know that we need those a lot of times for sure, cause a lot of times you do, you just need to call somebody and be like I feel really weird. Can I just like say all this stuff and then come to say no, you're fine, you know, or whatever it is like. But to be able to like support somebody through that process is incredible, really. Yeah, and I had a friend recently who had come to me just feeling like they didn't have anybody specific to go to, and they've been a person like that for me, especially in in the, in my day job, working in corporate America. Like I, sometimes it's hard to find people that you can be vulnerable with, and I've been really lucky in my career that maybe I mirror it enough, or I've just been lucky that I've had the right people around me in careers. And this person came to me saying, like I know that I've been there for you, can you be there for me? And and absolutely willing to hold space for people and again, even though I'm, it's not like a transactional relationship in terms of money. It's an energetic relationship, and I know that I can hold space for people and offer different perspectives or tools for them to be able to think about things on top of the fact that they might also be seeing a therapist or they might also, you know, be exercising or pursuing all these other endeavors for themselves. Yeah, yeah, that's huge.
Speaker 1:Do you think that being a manifesting generator yourself allows you to be that support and be that sort of like cheerleader, or what do you think it is? Do you think it's just natural within you or, yeah, that's a? That's a good question. I there. There is an aspect of human design called the incarnation cross, and really that goes back to your life purpose, and so I would say that it probably is more related to my life purpose than being a manifesting generator. So it's still part of human design. It's just one of those elements of human design that people often don't talk about. On the internet or social media, most people talk about your type, like manifesting generator, generator, projector, et cetera, or they talk about profiles or your authority, but nobody talks about incarnation cross a lot, and I do spend a lot of time there. If I'm working with clients who are like I'm lost, help me.
Speaker 1:But my my North node is also in Taurus, and Taurus is all about luxury and the finer things in life, but it's also about community. And that, uh, on the retreat actually was when Kelly shared that when we were um, kelly and Kellen shared that when I was, we were in the astrology class. I never realized what my North node was and what it actually meant, and that that moment forward sort of unlocked or opened the portal, so to speak, on being able to lean into that more. I mean, I live in the middle of nowhere. I live in Joshua tree, california, and there are people and there is a community here, but it's not like living in a city and so to build community I've had to think about that differently. So I would say my incarnation cross is certainly a part of that. My North node plays into that a lot.
Speaker 1:And then I think some of the other aspects I talked about, like my Hades moon and I have three planets in my 12th house and the 12th house just being about spirituality, just feeling like that's a place where I know I really thrive with people, and I mean even as simple as teaching a yoga class. I only teach two classes a week in person, but I love teaching yoga because we don't know a lot about our physical bodies and Asana is only one part of the practice. But if you don't understand the physical part of the practice, you can't always unpack the other aspects of the practice because you're so caught up in the postures, which is not the point. So, yeah, that was a very long way of answering your question. No, I think it was great, though you know, because it is. It's like so many different layers on top of each other which then make up.
Speaker 1:You know, kind of what you're able to do for others and what your gifts are and all of those things that we all have such different makeup of that you know, um, did you feel guilty throughout your life? Like you kind of touched on it, but kind of guilty for having so many interests, and also like, is it hard to explore those other interests because of your nine to five? Or do you feel like because your nine to five is just like corporate type of work? Or is it like is it so? Do you feel like your nine to five allows you to be able to be creative in other ways or does it get in the way of that and how do you kind of balance that? Yeah, great questions. I would say.
Speaker 1:Growing up I never felt guilty. I just felt different or other than a way that maybe wasn't supportive and nurturing of those aspects of me. Um, you know, kids can be kids and, uh, think about things, and I probably didn't realize it a lot when I was a child. It was more as I maybe got to middle school or high school where I had a lot of activities, like I was a high school cheerleader, which is hard for people to fathom sometimes, but I was also, you know, an honor student and on the diving team my senior year, like anything that piqued my interest, I'd find ways into it. As an adult I took up calligraphy and watercolor and the watercolor kind of failed, but I still do the calligraphy part more, so just for fun and a creative outlet.
Speaker 1:But I just realized growing up that I needed a lot of things to keep my mind active and maybe that's a little bit ADHD, maybe it's not. I actually don't think it is. I just think that I need to be stimulated, which actually my therapist told me a couple of sessions ago like ADHD is just people who are under stimulated and so they act out because they need the stimulation and that was like okay, wow, yeah, I'm blown again. Um, so, again, human design gave me permission to lean into those parts of myself and help other people see that it's okay. And the other interesting thing is being a nine to five and being an executive leader. It's allowed me to actually pull those parts into my day job.
Speaker 1:So while I have time and I have great boundaries and I, I do I preach this really like as a leader, a modern leader, millennial leader, whatever you want to call it it's really important that you embody the values you want to impress upon your team, and so if you yourself are not setting boundaries you yourself are on the computer all the time and you're sending emails at 10, 11, 12, you know, in the morning your team's not going to feel okay setting boundaries. If you're not setting boundaries and I think there are some exceptions to that you know like CEOs probably just naturally have a lot of work to do. I've just made it my career mission to create those boundaries and so, as a wellness practitioner, I try to do my best to bring those aspects into how I lead my teams. And then, on top of that, I talk about astrology in the workplace, I talk about human design in the workplace, I talk about yoga and meditation and breath work and all of these tools that are important to me, and I have some team members who are like all in on it. They'll ask me, like what's going on with the planets? Is mercury and retrograde? Like we'll just come and ask me questions or they'll say can you look up this aspect of my birth chart? And I love when they do that, cause I've set the table to say I love to talk about these things. We don't always have to talk about work, and I have some team members who are indifferent to it, but it's not as though they're annoyed by it. They just realize. I think they realize I bring my true self to the table and that's given them permission. I've seen my own team really evolve in the last year and a half. I've seen them really grow into being more of themselves in the workplace, which I love and that I truly believe the only reason that that was possible is because I brought my authentic and vulnerable self to the table and I people say all the time and maybe this is like old school thinking let's keep work and personal life separate.
Speaker 1:I'm sorry, you can't do that. There's really no such thing. You can't set boundaries. That's different. But you can set boundaries and, at the end of the day, one of the most important ways to build trust anywhere in a friend group, in a, in a work environment, in some project you're working on unrelated to both of those worlds the biggest way to build productivity is to build trust. And when you build trust, you build a sense of belonging, and that's all we want as humans. And so you have to talk about the personal things you have to talk about. You don't have to talk to them about what you spoke to your therapist about, but you do want to talk about things more than just what the weather's like where you're living. Yeah, exactly, and it's so funny because, as you started talking about that, I'm like, yeah, because it's like your true self, and you can't just like not infuse these things into that, because it would be so separate that it would probably feel really gross. You know to be a different person here and then a different person there, like very disjointed, you know. Yeah, yeah, it definitely does for me.
Speaker 1:I know some people intentionally have learned to mask that way and, um, that that takes a lot to undo and I've I'm asking some ways. I mean I shared a LinkedIn post about this a couple of weeks ago when I went to a conference for work like I'm an introvert. Most people wouldn't realize that, but when I'm in my flow state and I'm doing what I love, it doesn't look like I'm an introvert because I'm just sharing what's on my heart with other people, which is what I love to do sharing what's on my heart with other people, which is what I love to do. Was that hard to begin to begin to start sharing or did it just naturally sort of flow to you to start Like? Was there a point where you were like, okay, I'm not being myself, I need to pivot, or I want to start sharing, so let me inch like towards that, especially being an introvert, wanting to maybe hide or not be seen. Is that something that feels difficult to you or something that you learned?
Speaker 1:I can't really remember during childhood I probably was more extroverted, naturally as a child, at least from what I can remember. Um, or my, my parents maybe put me in positions where I didn't. I felt comfortable Like, I was a gymnast growing up and so I had a very tight knit group of other girls that I was in the gym with, you know, multiple hours a week and that made it easy to to be myself, and similarly with some of the other activities I did in school, I think I didn't actually realize that I was an introvert until I got older and I realized being in social settings was extremely draining for me if it wasn't somewhere I wanted to be, and so I had to come to terms with that. But I grew up in the era of Zynga and LiveJournal and MySpace, and so I have no qualms about sharing publicly and I found myself I mean, there was a bit of anonymity during those eras where you could get away with talking about things and people not, you know, maybe some of your in real life friends knew who you were, but the broader internet didn't.
Speaker 1:But as I started sharing my story, this, the one point in my life where I think it really was pivotal for me was I was going through a divorce when I was living in Colorado and I had met Kimothy actually um at the same time and she was going through a similar experience and I just found like how, prior to that, I had never known anybody around my age who had gone throughout that experience. And so that was the moment. How old were you at the time? And so that was the moment. How old were you at the time? Goodness, how was I? How old was I? 27, maybe Like late 20s? Got around my Saturn return? No surprise, yeah, but anyway, I had just started sharing in social circles in real life and had found, oh, I'd met a friend, a really dear friend of mine, who was also going through a divorce.
Speaker 1:And so it just became this thing where it was like, if we don't talk about these things and people can't feel seen or be supported, and those are critical needs we have as humans, and that was a. That was a very big jumping off point for me to just be like no, I'm just going to continue to share and be an open book, and that may look different depending upon the context and the environment, but it's I would say it's never backfired on me. You know I'm knocking on wood, but I honestly don't care. I my um, those that are closest to me know it's important for me to share those parts of myself because one it helps you relate to human people. You know human people and that's how you build trust and belonging, like we just talked about. And I just think, like, stop creating unnecessary stigmas and just talk about the things that are hard, so that other people can feel like they have the support system around them to navigate those hard parts of life. No one has to do it alone. Yeah, I love that Absolutely. One has to do it alone. Yeah, oh, I love that Absolutely.
Speaker 1:Was your divorce, if you want to, you know, share um, was that? How did it feel to? Actually? Because divorce is, I feel, like something that people really don't talk that much about either. They talk about it a lot in the moment when they're going through it, as like a know sharing their turmoil, getting it out, you know kind of that thing as they're navigating it, but really looking back on it and being like like how hard it is to actually break from that person when you, you know, got to we're going to be married forever. You know that's a huge thing. How did it feel to get to the point and how did you know? You were at a point where you were like, okay, this isn't working, like we have to be done, like I have to build a whole new life. How did that? Yeah, yeah, that was that was. It took some time to get there.
Speaker 1:I think I had always known earlier, but maybe ignored the feelings because you know you're supposed to be married forever, like you said. Um, it really came to light after we moved to Colorado from Missouri, and I I felt so at home when I moved to Colorado, like I had always, like I was always supposed to live there, and a lot just became clearer to me. I kind of equate it to the story of the golden Buddha, which really, at the end of the day, is you are born complete, you are whole, and everything about life teaches us that we're not, and so we have to spend a lifetime trying to undo all of that conditioning. And so I just felt like in that moment I felt whole, and when I looked at the life around me and I was thinking about what do I want for myself now and in the future, I just realized that he and I were growing in two separate directions, like we weren't even growing in parallel or towards the same direction. We were very much diverging and going in opposite directions. And I also had a realization that I didn't want to have kids and he did, and we had had conversations going into the marriage about it and I had always thought I'd probably have one, at least one kid, two at most. And then, as we went through the experience, realized no, I actually don't want children.
Speaker 1:And so there was just enough things that came to light and was more apparent to me and I was the one who ultimately asked for the divorce. And it was a hard experience, one of the hardest things I've ever had to do asked for the divorce, and it was a hard experience, one of the hardest things I've ever had to do in my life, when you've shared a life with someone. At that point we were together eight years. So, yeah, it's huge. A lot of, a lot of questioning, a lot of is this the right decision? Could we work through it? And I think that there were just too many fundamental values as humans that were different for the two of us, that there was no amount of couples therapy or any other you know tool that would have helped us get there, unless somebody wanted to change their values, and values are not things that change very often. So, um, to come to that realization took took some time and strength and courage to be able to make that decision. Yeah, yeah, absolutely.
Speaker 1:And did you at that point? Were you practicing yoga at that point? Was that a big part of your life? It was a huge, huge part of my life. Um, I was practicing probably five or six days a week. There was a studio around the corner from me, like literally two blocks from my apartment, that I was at all the time and I was getting Reiki regularly. I was doing yoga, nidra, because I was dealing with about a sleepless sleeplessness and, as a result, pretty chronic migraines, and so I pretty much dove deep into those healing tools as a way to get me through the divorce and and my community. But, yeah, yoga became a.
Speaker 1:I would find a way to make sure I could go to yoga five, six, seven days a week, sometimes because it was the only thing that was keeping me sane, especially during the transition, because he, he and I were still living together for a period of time during that and I needed safe havens for me to be able to be. That wasn't work, where I could just turn off my mind, and yoga was absolutely for that. And this this studio had the upstairs was a spin studio and the downstairs was a yoga studio, which I loved, but it felt like being in my own little cave, even if there were other students in there, you were away from the sound of the streets. I lived in downtown Denver. You were away from sort of all of the modern comfort, so to speak, of life that when I was in that yoga studio I was really able to tune everything out.
Speaker 1:Yeah, yeah, I had a feeling that it was probably huge for that because, again, like it's just so important sometimes to have these tools to be able to move through life and to move through transitions and move through hard things and to get us through, you know, through hard times of our lives. You know, and I us through, you know, through hard times of our lives. You know, and I think yoga I mean so many times I think I'm like man, how do people do life without yoga? Like it really is just such a just the best. It really it really is. I don't, I mean, maybe, maybe people are doing some other form of fitness or movement, like something like you need a somatic treatment, but yeah, no, there's something different about yoga that I can't get from any other, any other um tool, even, you know even non-movement tool. Yeah, exactly, totally so.
Speaker 1:Then when did you start getting into human design? I do want to talk a little bit about that because I think, especially right now I've been hearing a lot everybody's been, I think kind of everything kind of goes through phases and then circles through you know um, but I think it's a very helpful tool. I don't know too too much about I've never had like a reading or anything like that but I do think it's super interesting, helpful, just as everything else is. So when did that sort of start coming into your life? And then, how did you get into it, all that kind of stuff? Yeah, I found it in 2019. A co worker, actually at the job I was working at was going through a training program and I don't know if she brought it up or if I had heard about it, and she happened to be talking about it and I thought, oh, I just recently learned about that thing and I'm a manifesting generator, and so we had talked about it early at that point. But again, it was 2019. We're talking five years ago, yeah, and I kind of forgot about it for a while. Until 2021, I joined an online sort of spiritual. Until 2021.
Speaker 1:I joined an online sort of spiritual, you know witchy sort of community, and one of the cohorts within that group was on human design and I thought, oh, I remember that thing and I'll just pop into one of the. They all of the groups were group run and so they would put on workshops every couple of weeks, but it was members of the group who would put on workshops. And so they would put on workshops every couple of weeks, but it was members of the group who would put on workshops. One is a means to like better learn the content yourself, because the best way to learn is to teach, and the other piece is just to have a community of like-minded people. And so I thought, oh, I'll check this one out and see if I like this one and if not, I'll check out another one.
Speaker 1:And in that first hour sort of mini workshop session, I just I took voracious notes I still have those notes and thought like holy crap, this is, I feel. I felt so seen in that moment because we had talked about aspects of my chart that I had never really understood when I would research them online. And so that kicked off a okay, this is the cohort group I'm going to stay in while I'm in this community and would participate in the workshops and I taught a couple myself and it just started turning into. I think I want to start doing readings for people, and so within the group you can do share and trade sessions with other people who are maybe trying to hone their skills a bit, and trade sessions with other people who are maybe trying to hone their skills a bit. And so I did a trade for a couple of folks and it just felt so rewarding to be in a flow state like that, with people helping them realize what you know, some of the greatness within them or the things that maybe they've always wanted the permission to feel or do, giving them the permission to feel or do, giving them the permission to feel or do those things.
Speaker 1:And then I I did a call out to my sort of social group and asked if anybody would be interested in a complimentary reading in exchange for feedback and a testimonial, essentially. And so I had a lot of friends reach out who had also recently heard about human design, and particularly with those individuals because I knew them personally, it was even more fun of an experience because when I would look up their chart, my mom, like I was literally like I knew it, like I have one friend who's a reflector and before I even look up her chart I go I know she's a reflector which are the rarest of the rare there are not very many reflectors out there I think they're less than 1% of the human population and I just I was like I know she's a refle, personal experience with them to be able to do them and it just it just became a thing where I loved what human design allowed people to do, similar to what astrology does. I think a lot of people feel seen and validated in aspects of their astrology big three, not just their sun sign, but their moon and their rising. Human design has the same sort of effect on people because it just really taps into parts of yourself that maybe you conditioned yourself out of or society conditioned you out of, and it's giving you permission to do those things. And so since really since 2021, permission to do those things, and so since really since 2021, I've continued to do things in the background and either done readings or worked on digital reports for people that are more like a self-study approach to understanding human design. Maybe they aren't ready, they aren't ready for a full reading yet or just want, are just curious about it. But, um, yeah, it's sort of been in my, in my wheelhouse, for the last three years now. So cool, so fascinating too.
Speaker 1:What was it, uh, about your friend that you were like she's a reflector, like what was she? What is she like that made you be like I think that's it's you. There's yeah, there's two parts actually. So reflectors don't have any centers, uh, um, closed or not closed, but, um, they're all open. So every center on their human design chart is open, and so those people are often very influential or very influenced, I should say, by the energy around them.
Speaker 1:You could call them empaths, but I think that that's too specific of a definition for them, but they're very influential. They can be very chameleon like, and energy. They also deeply feel. They feel a lot, and so they tend to be introverts and need to spend a lot of time alone, recharging themselves in in stillness and solitude and quiet. Um, and she's very much that way and she spends a lot of time, um, with her practices, which I think is so beautiful, and she, she loves the moon. She's really drawn to the moon, and one of the critical things about a reflector chart is you are.
Speaker 1:Your authority really is that you need to make decisions by the cycles of the moon and so, with other authorities specifically, you might, you know, need to sleep on it or let your emotions come to a baseline, like I have emotional authority, and so I tend to make decisions in emotional highs and lows, which sometimes pan out for me and sometimes they don't. But I'm supposed to wait till I'm at a baseline before I make any decisions and listen for my gut feeling. For her, she needs to wait a whole moon cycle, which is 28 days. So when she's thinking about large life decisions, she really needs to think about what's the decision you know what's the decision that needs to be made, what are and not think about it the whole time, not get anxiety about this decision or overthink it, but just sit with it Like I'm going to plant the seed in my heart, almost like manifesting in some ways. Like plant the seed in my heart of the decision that needs to be made. I'm going to allow the cycles of the moon to move, knowing that I move I mean, as humans we all move with the cycles of the moon but knowing that she needs to be much more in tune with that before she can make a big decision. And so it was those two aspects where I was like I wouldn't be surprised if she's a reflector and then, sure enough, she, she absolutely is, and I think it anchored her more into her love for the moon, which I really, really love. Oh, that's awesome. That is so cool.
Speaker 1:So, briefly, what are? So? What are the three things that you would say are, like the most important, like, if you're just getting into it, you know, what do you feel? Like are the things to really look at, tap into, to understand, like, what are, like, the basics if you're just getting into it, to start to get into, yeah, yeah, I would say the basic parts of the chart that are the most digestible to learn are your type, which type is manifesting, generator, manifester generator, reflector and projector. There's so much information and content on the internet and social about those things, and they're largely the ones that probably a lot of content creators spend the most time on, because there's a lot in there. You could, you could just spend all your time on because there's a lot in there. You could, you could just spend all your time on that design, on types and what that means and that resonates with a lot of people who maybe don't want to dive deep into the topic. You know, equate it maybe to like your sun sign and astrology yeah, exactly sort of. It's sort of like that.
Speaker 1:Your next one would be authority, which is ultimately how you make decisions, and there are several of them. Most people tend to be emotional, have emotional authority or sacral authority. It is largely driven by your type, so there's some relation there and there's several of them. Like I said, I'm an emotional, I have emotional authority. Most manifesting generators have sacral authority, which just means it's a gut feeling. The next one would be your profile numbers, and so those are numbers one to six, and they look in different combinations and everybody has two. So I'm a five one manifesting generator, but each of them means something different. So the first number is usually a projection of like what you think of yourself, and the second number is usually a projection of like what you think of yourself, and the second number being a projection of what how other people see you. So that's a great one to dive into.
Speaker 1:And then the last one would be strategy, which is largely related to your type. So you kind of kind of can't have one without the other the type and the strategy. But your strategy helps to inform the context around the decisions that you do make. So, as an example, manifesting generators and generators their strategy is to respond. So they need to wait until they see or feel or something comes to them before they're able to respond to it. They shouldn't be proactive about things necessarily, whereas projectors essentially need to feel permission, they need to be invited, like they're waiting for their invitation to show up in the mail before they can show their true gifts.
Speaker 1:And then I think the manifestor one is always interesting to me, because every manifestor I meet when I explain this to them, they're like that explains so much. They're not self, which in in human design, every type has a not self. It's basically, if you're not living in alignment with your design, how does that manifest? And for manifestors it's anger, and but their strategy is to inform. So manifestors are the type of people in your life who just like go and get shit done. They just like go and do and you look at them and you're like holy crap, how are they just doing these things?
Speaker 1:I have one friend that I that comes to mind. For me I feel like every weekend she's jet setting off to somewhere and she lives this marvelous life and I love. I for her, um, I love living vicariously through her cause. I don't have the energy to travel as much as she does, but when she and I were talking I said, yeah, part of what you have to do is you have to inform people. It's not asking permission. You're not saying, hey, I want to take this trip, can I take this trip? Is that okay? Hey, I want to take this trip, can I take this trip? Is that okay? It's hey, I'm taking this trip next weekend, just letting you know. And then you go and take the trip.
Speaker 1:When she doesn't do that or when manifestors don't just inform, it usually leads to people in their life making them feel really terrible about their decisions, and then the end result is that the manifestor feels angry. So this is particularly important in the context of like close platonic friendships or family or romantic relationships, where they just need to bring people along in the journey. They don't have to actually like hit, they don't have to hitch to their ride, so to speak. But it's hey, I'm going to go do this thing and just let them know and they go do it. Otherwise it just doesn't turn out very pretty. Yeah, that is so interesting. So, instead of being like hey, I'm going to do this thing or and then give the other person gets to have an opinion about it, instead it's more just like this is what I'm doing, the end, yeah, that kind of what you're saying. Yep, exactly, yeah, that's exactly it. Yeah, it's so interesting. Yep, exactly, yeah, that's exactly it. Yeah, it's so interesting.
Speaker 1:So breakdown for me and for us manifesting generator, manifestors, projectors, all that percentages with, like, how many of the population is that? You know? Just in case anybody that's listening hasn't heard of any of this and it's like what the heck? What am I, you know? Yeah, definitely. I mean types are ultimately defined by what centers you have, are determined by what centers you have defined and undefined in your chart, and a lot of that is related back to energy. So I mentioned that most manifesting generators have sacral authority. The same is also said for generators. So manifesting generators are a blend of manifestors and generators, mmgs for short. They often get grouped with generators in percentages, and so the largest group of people is really generators by proxy manifesting generators as well. It's. It's some, it's something like 32, I believe, of um the population is is manifesting generator generators. Manifestors the next one, and then projector and then reflector. Reflectors the most rare of them because they don't have any centers defined. Projectors don't have any what's called motor centers defined in their chart. Which motor centers are? The sacral and the root? Very similar. These might sound very similar to chakras, and they are, but there's more centers than there are chakras, at least in the seven chakra system. So it's a very small percentage.
Speaker 1:Particularly, and you'll often find, in the context of business or relationships, there's two things that happen. One, you either are grouped in with a lot of the same types of people, like a lot of my friends happen to be manifesting generators or generators for the most part, which isn't surprising. A lot of CEOs, a lot of entrepreneurs, are manifesting generators. Gwyneth Paltrow is a manifesting generator. Like you see that a lot I'm a manifesting generator too. Like people who want, I'm a manifesting generator too. Like people who want to get their shit started and want to have their dreams come true. You know they're using the state they have. We all have our sacral center defined in our chart. We're using that to help us make decisions and then the root is helping us actually move into action. Uh, particularly.
Speaker 1:You can think of them essentially like the batteries and the motors of the of the body. Projectors and reflectors don't have those defined, and so a projector, as an example, works best with a four-hour workday. I mean, we all probably would love a four-hour, but projectors and reflectors are nap takers. They might sleep in. They might be better off working four hours a day for four days a week, and if you are a projector and you're a business owner I know actually a couple of people who are projectors or business owners you can think of yourself as the director of a movie and a lot of leader, a lot of up and coming leaders, are actually projectors.
Speaker 1:When, when they do the research and they look at who are some of these younger, emerging leaders around the world, they are projectors and they're really great at putting teams around them that help the dream to come true. That is so funny. Yeah, it's so funny. I'm thinking of two of my friends right now who are projectors and I think that they, if they heard this, they would feel like oh shit, so I'm not lazy, I'm not like. It's not that I just am not good at leading people, it's not that I'm just this like, but to know you're like the director, because they do that naturally, but then they like gaslight themselves into thinking they shouldn't be doing that or whatever it is, or doing more or doing it harder or whatever. So it is or doing more, or doing it harder, or whatever. So, yeah, it's funny when I I have a report that I like, uh, um, it's a, a pre-populated report, essentially, um, that I'm launching soon and in it one of the descriptions I have written about the projectors you're not lazy, a 40 hour work week is not meant for you and the the even funnier thing is that, of all the types, when, when you do read anybody does a reading of all the types, projectors feel the most seen at the end of a reading because they've probably most been out of alignment.
Speaker 1:Most, you know, most leaders historically in the world have been generators and manifesting generators. So we've had this very dominant, driven, powerful force. When we think and I'm not just talking politics, but you know, business and corporate America, et cetera right, that projectors and reflectors are the direct opposite of that energy, and so it can be seen as not productive or they're lazy, or there's something wrong with them. And no, that's you, just, they have a beautiful opportunity to reframe what their daily life looks like, and it doesn't have to look like the friend of theirs who is a manifesting generator in the course of you, like they need to recognize I can't keep up with Lauren, and that's okay. Yeah, exactly, exactly. Yeah, so powerful too, too.
Speaker 1:Would you say that um, like projectors, manifesting generator generators, can you sort of draw any parallels to each of those and like the elements, or do you notice any like um astrology signs, that their sun signs, sort of um, are in different categories of each one of those? Like, let's say, like air signs are more like manifesting generators and like generators are more like earth sign type vibes, like, do you see any parallels or do you think it's so like nuanced and complex that it's kind of hard to like put them in those types of categories? I think there's definitely some nuance and complexity to it. Astrology is part of the under, like the underling of um, of human design. I can't say that I've personally noticed any trends when I'm just thinking about all the people I've done readings for. I'm sure that there are, if somebody. That would actually be a really interesting research project for somebody to do some research to understand what, what your sun sign is, or maybe there's some other uh, correlation between maybe it's not the sun sign, it's another sign and the percentages of type, human design types there are. I mean, I, I'm, I'm, I'm an air sun, an air sun, and, um, timothy is a earth sun sign, and so I've? I've not really seen. I'm just using that as an example because I know your birthday, but, um, and I think you just had your birthday recently too, but you're an air sign, I believe. So, um, I've not necessarily noticed friends in that way, but I wouldn't be surprised if it's actually related to something more, like your moon sign or your rising sign. Yeah, that makes a lot of sense for sure.
Speaker 1:So we talked a little bit about authority. So what does that necessarily mean? So that is how you make decisions right? Yeah, exactly. So what does that necessarily mean? So that is how you make decisions right? Going to vary though.
Speaker 1:The bulk of people have there's six authorities. The bulk of people have sacral or emotional authority, and then all the other ones are are somewhat rare, in fact. I've I've never done a reading for anybody who has a heart authority, but I have done readings for the other five type, the other five types of authorities, but, um, and it's going to differ. I mean people who have sacral authority, which are most manifesting generators, even if you have like, in my case, I'm an emotional manifesting generator. I still have to listen for my gut instinct and the sacral, but I have to let my emotions come to baseline, because I have a tendency to make decisions when I'm in an emotional high or an emotional low I mean, we all probably do and I can be flaky and also regret my decisions, and so I need to truly be at an emotional baseline to make good decisions for myself, ones that I can have, you know, connection in, so to speak.
Speaker 1:Um, but people with sacral authority need to listen, the need to listen for that true gut feeling, and it's an obvious one. So, if you have to ask, is my gut telling me something? And it's, and if you have to ask that question, the answer is no and the, the that's interesting moniker or the. The thing that I advise people who have sacral authority is if it's not a hell yes, it's a hell no. So, if you're not feeling a hell yes in your body and your gut about some decision you need to make, it's a no, it's a straight no. Yeah, full sentence, it's a no.
Speaker 1:Whereas people who have splenic authority which I think is always an interesting one is about instinct and people are like isn't that the same as gut? I'm like not really, because instinct is more sort of spidey senses. Yeah, I was going to say like tingly, kind of like it's like visceral, I don't know. Yeah, yeah, you just sense it. People who have splenic authority or even have a defined spleen, can walk into a room and be like Nope, not today, I'm walking out Right. Or as a yoga teacher people I know a yoga teacher who has splenic authority like she has to be very protective about when she walks into a room to teach a yoga studio and it feels icky, like I think of Phoebe from friends. Anytime she'd walk into a room that had bad energy, she'd just be like Ew, ew, like that's what people of splenic authority have the ability to do. It is like a spidey sense.
Speaker 1:But the problem with splenic authority is it's so quiet. It's so quiet, it's so subtle, and so you have to be really still and have great practices to be able to tap into that instinct and intuition so you can hear it, because it won't ask again. It won't tell you again if you aren't able to hear it. So if you are looking for help in making a decision and it gives you an answer and you're not paying attention or you're not embodied, it may not come back to give you the answer. Yeah, totally, because a huge theme throughout this whole conversation is trusting yourself, knowing how to bring yourself back into balance, believing in yourself and trusting that your decisions are right and that you know what's best for you. It's kind of like your journey has been, I feel like I think you're good at that, I think you have whether that's a thing that came naturally to you or whether it's something you learned, like everything does come back to that in a way, you know.
Speaker 1:Yeah, I mean, a great reminder in the world of human design is the mind is not a decision-making center. So if your mental chatter is coming in to talk you in or out of a design, find a way to turn it off so that you can tap into whatever your authority is. And people like get out of it. Ram Dass always says get out of your head and into your heart. I mean, not everybody has heart authority, but that's really what it is Get out of your head, get into your body, feel your way through the decision that you need to make. Don't talk yourself in or out of it. I mean, obviously, if it's a financial decision or something that is a really big deal, you might have to put the pros and cons down, but the answer is not going to come at the end of that exercise of making the pros and cons. It's probably going to come from meditating on.
Speaker 1:Okay, now that I've put everything that's in my brain on a piece of paper or in my journal, now I need to think about what this means. How do I feel? What does that future state look like for me? What, what? What might it look like if I'm in a challenge that I think I might run into? What might it look like when I'm experiencing a glimmer versus a challenge that's not going to come from the mind, that's going to come from the body? What do you think stops people from getting into their bodies and from trusting their and from getting into that space and getting out of the mind?
Speaker 1:Fear and the ego. The ego likes to hold onto things, the ego is greedy and the ego wants to keep you safe, and I use that with air quotes because it's perception or idea of safety is not actually what is safe for you, and so the ego keeps you in place, and what that ultimately does for you is it gives you the idea that you have control because you made the decision to sit here and not move, which I know is safe. But the biggest fear that you could ultimately have, the biggest risk that you could take in life, is be at the end of your days and regret not doing all of the things that you wanted to do, and so you have to take yourself out of that. It takes some ego work, which a lot of people aren't willing to do, and take your, take your the big eye out of the equation and ask myself what would life look like if I never got to do that thing? Because there's the fear of rejection, right, the fear of failure, insert other fear here, and in human design, the spleen is the source of fear. So you could look at your splenic center and even if you don't have it defined, you could see what gates which we're getting into the weeds here a little bit but each center has gates and each of them means something, but in the spleen specifically, each of the gates is associated with a fear so you could tap. You could tap into that and just work, work through that. I mean what's one thing that you could do towards whatever your goal or your desire is, or what container whether that's through a community or a practice or a class or a course or studies can help you get closer to not being afraid of making decisions.
Speaker 1:But that is 100% why people don't make their decisions. It's a battle with ego, and it may not feel egoic in the sense that, like I'm full of myself, it's egoic in the sense that I don't out there is unsafe. It makes me think of a quote, cause I have a lot of these things trapped in my head or written on. I have like 20 sticky notes. A ship is not safe at Harbor, or sorry, a ship is safe at Harbor, but that's not what ships are built for. So why would we keep? Why would we keep our own ship in Harbor? It's not supposed to just sit there and collect barnacles sitting in a dock slip and, you know, in some port of sea. It's supposed to be out adventuring life and it is going to get dings and holes and lose parts of itself along the way, but it's going to also gain passengers and stories and experiences in the process. So we have to allow ourselves to leave. Leave shore yeah, absolutely, would you say.
Speaker 1:In your experience it gets easier the more and more you leave the shore and like that it's sort of a practice to. You know, let let go, let go of the control, do things that are scary. In your experience does it get easier or would you say it's always hard? I would say the fear is always there, but it gets quieter and you just you develop the muscle of understanding what fear is. Just information.
Speaker 1:I mean, you know fear was great when we were being chased by lions. You know hundreds of years, you know years ago, when we weren't living in a modern society and our minds evolutionarily still think of fear in the same way. Our heartbeat races right, we start sweating or palm sweat, but we're not being chased by a lion, we're just being asked to speak in front of people. It's not the same gravity, like it's not a matter of staying hungry or not. You know, am I going to starve to death? No, you're just talking in front of people, which is scary. I don't want to take away that fear from people. But you start to develop a different relationship with fear and use it as information instead of being afraid of it. And we we just have to again. I mean, like we all will experience fear all the way through our end of days until we die. But it's a matter of how can you reframe and redevelop that relationship. So I wouldn't say that it gets easier. I would just say the voice gets quieter or you develop the tools to be able to understand what to do and define the information fear is giving you.
Speaker 1:Because fear is not always going to manifest in the body and even in the mind in the same way every time in the tool set that you use is not going to be the same every single time, and that's also important to use, because are important to remember, because people think well, I did yoga all the time the last time I had an experience like this and it's like, yeah, you were a different human being, different time of year, different place in your life. That tool may not have the same strength to be able to get you through. You might need to add another tool or replace it with another tool, and that's why I think having a bunch of tools in your toolbox is so important, whether that is human design or something else, because you need. I mean, you think of it as like a mechanic or a handyman. They've got a whole toolbox of stuff and they're not going to use the hammer every single time they go to fix something in someone's house. They're going to pull from the toolbox a different tool to figure out what's going on. And we have to think about that are in our context too. Oh, yes, I love that. I think that is so good and so true.
Speaker 1:Um, what do you think is the biggest thing? I'm going all the way back to the beginning, um, but what do you think is the biggest thing that maybe has changed within your life or within you since Costa Rica a year ago? Cause a lot can happen in a year, um, and maybe nothing. Maybe we have signs or nothing changed or evolved or grew, or is there anything yet from that point to now that you feel like has changed or that you um transitioned out of or into? Yeah, so much has changed, honestly, and it it had been a decade since I had done an experience like that. I had done another women's retreat pretty much um 12 years prior, and I've done other things for myself, you know, yoga, teacher training and whatnot, but I wouldn't equate it to being in Costa Rica.
Speaker 1:Leading up to the point at Costa Rica, I was constantly telling those around me I feel like I'm on the precipice of something I have no idea what, but I just felt like I was on the verge and so much of what I was navigating in the earlier part of 2023 was being multidimensional and I really struggled with that I still struggle with that to some degree of feeling like, well, I have all of these tools, how the hell do I package them up into something that's going to help people? And because I see so many examples out there in the world, on the internet, on social media, that is, somebody is just has conviction in this one thing that they offer and I'm like but I don't, I don't have just one thing. I have all these things and I don't want to just do one thing, because I know the power personally of having experienced all these things. So that, coupled with being on the verge, when I went to Costa Rica, I just allowed myself to be really open to the experience. One I was really excited selfishly to get some FaceTime in with Kimothy, because she and I haven't seen each other in person in, since we both lived in Denver and neither of us live in Denver anymore. Um, and and then just truly had no idea what to expect but wanted that to be the catalyst. And I even remember talking to my husband saying like we'd I'd made the decision to go and he knew that something would happen, after no idea what. He just knew that something. It was like somebody would just like flick me off so I could start to roll down the hill or leave Um, if you need another analogy in there.
Speaker 1:And so when I came, when I came back what's funny is the week I was there at my day job some transitions happened and when I came back, my CEO was like I'm going to need you to put together this report. I'm sorry we couldn't take care of it while you were gone, but we need this deck that we're presenting in two days to our board of directors. And I it was a Monday, we got back on a Sunday. I don't know why I didn't take, we got back on a Saturday. I don't know why I didn't take um, we got back on a Saturday. I don't have any idea why I didn't take Monday off, but I didn't, uh, and I was just like great, I'll have it done.
Speaker 1:And I just had a very different mindset, that nothing really phased me and that protective wall allowed me to cultivate everything that I have up until this point. So I, between Costa Rica and today, I've been able to package my offerings in a way that makes sense and feel good for me. I've given a name to what it means, so that I can communicate that to people. Um, I've gotten. I was. I was able to teach yoga again for the first time in five, six years in person. I hadn't taught yoga in person truly since I left Colorado. I did some corporate private stuff when I was in LA for a bit, but I haven't really taught in a studio setting. I was able to walk back into a studio again and now teach two classes a week, and I hope to teach more by the end of the year.
Speaker 1:So I just feel like I've gotten closer to the version of myself that sometimes life can take away from you. I feel like I have more tools in my toolbox to help me on my journey. I have a greater awareness of the experiences I've had in childhood and what my triggers are, so that I can better manage them and have awareness of what it means in the context of today versus what that trigger may have done or helped to do to protect me as a child. And they are not. They are related but they don't mean the same things today and just feeling at peace in ways I haven't in the past and I think, particularly in the context of having a corporate job and pursuing these endeavors on the side which I don't always want to work in corporate America but being able to create a life for myself where I'm able to do both has been really important for me, and I think Costa Rica not even I think I know Costa Rica gave me more permission to lean into.
Speaker 1:I don't have to have either. I can have both and I don't have to have both forever, but right now I do have both and there's no reason why I can't continue to share these gifts that I have with people, whereas before I felt really afraid that I have with people, whereas before I felt really afraid and some elements of imposter syndrome, especially on topics where there's so many voices in yoga, there's so many voices in human design, there's so many voices in astrology of feeling like what is my unique angle and a coach I worked with at the end of the year said your unique angle is you and, yes, there are people talking about and offering very similar services to you, but the difference is they're paying for you, they're not paying for somebody else. So, just being, I think I was finally able to hear those things that people had said to me. I think people even on the retreat were saying very similar things, but it was early on and I hadn't had a chance to integrate that information yet.
Speaker 1:That all that time between now and then, I'm like I hear you and I'm doing what I can to create and offer these gifts because, one, it brings me so much joy and I and I am truly in a flow state and, two, I want to, um, I'm ready to receive these information, receive this information and pass it through as a gift to others, because I know people are hungry for it and I know there's a million me's out there living life that I would have loved to have had this information sooner in my life and how can I help those people at similar pivotal points in their own life journey? So beautiful life journey, so beautiful, and it feels so good to finally or not to finally, because I don't even think it's a finally, but it does feel good when it feels like everything kind of like comes together, like all the parts that are swirling in your mind, or that you're like I have this, but I have this, but I want to have this and what about this? And just to be like, fuck it, I'm going to offer it all together in my own unique way and it's going to feel good to me to be able to help people like and it is so funny because it's equally not that deep and really deep, I feel like to where it's like this isn't really as deep as I'm making it, but this is deep work. But I also can have fun while I'm doing this and enjoy doing this and offering this, and it doesn't have to be so heavy. Sometimes, you know, yeah, yeah, the contents can be heavy, but you don't have to carry it Like it's heavy Exactly, and I do.
Speaker 1:I do think you know, even in the context of some launches that I'm personally working on, initially I was like I'm just going to launch everything at once, cause that's sort of just in my Gemini manifesting generator energy is just like get it out, just get it all out there, and I thought about it like do I have the energy to hold the space for all of these things to be live concurrently? At some point they will all be live at the same time, but maybe I don't need to. Am I just creating more unnecessary work for myself if I'm not metering it out in a way that's sustainable for my own energy? And so it had the potential to be unnecessarily heavy because I decided to put more in the suitcase than really needed to be there. I overpacked and got called out on it. You know, thanks to some people in my life being like do you really want to call that out at once? Yeah, like, be mindful about what you pack in your bags. We all have baggage. So we're already coming into whatever trip of life we are on. We're already coming into the equation with stuff in the suitcase already. So you have to be really intentional about what you put in there so you're not getting charged that extra money by the airlines.
Speaker 1:I've realized I've said so many random. They're so good. It's like I could have all just been analogies. I love it because they're all really great. It's like oh yeah, I totally get it. I love the suitcase one. That was great. The ship one was good. What was the other one? Yeah, I love that, but no, you're so right Like, and there's really no rush in all this stuff either, and all of these creative endeavors.
Speaker 1:And I remember when we had all gotten back together on zoom after Costa Rica and you're like I'm just trying to have so much fun, like I just want to have fun and like live my life and like yeah, yeah, that's all I'm. It's it's a running joke with my husband and I now, because even in the moment where I might feel frustrated or it may not look like I'm experiencing joy or fun, he'll just say are you having fun? And my answer is always. And it became a joke going into the summer because we came off of Costa Rica and I was seeing Blink-182 twice last summer and they are my teenage dream. I had the hugest crush on the bassist and the guitarist and I saw them virtually play at Coachella. I didn't go to Coachella, but we watched the live stream and I knew the words to every song. And my husband was even like I'm sorry, what? How do you know all the words to these songs? And I just forgot like that part of my life I had packed away and it was. I would honestly say that was one of the catalyst moments of 2023.
Speaker 1:Going into the retreat and realizing fun is actually one of my values. It is incredibly important for me to be having fun always, and I've even contemplated changing my license plate to say fun always, but I love pushing it. But, um, because it really is, even in the moments where I might feel really shitty or life is crappy or I'm, you know, experiencing my PMS symptoms because it's time of the month is, how can I make sure every day that I'm having fun? And I legit write it on my to-do list? Um, I put like experience, joy or have fun on my to-do list. Um, I put like experience, joy or have fun on my to-do list every day.
Speaker 1:So I have to find something in my life and sometimes it's just part of, naturally, part of my schedule, like if I know I'm creating today, like I'm having fun doing this, obviously, and so I'm like done, checked that off, but I'm also going to go to the gym and take a spin class later today, which I love doing. It's so much fun, um, because I can move a bunch of energy when I'm doing that. So it's, it is so embedded in me and I've said this a lot to people it's it's been healing my inner teen, because I think I was very I know I was a very angsty teen and probably didn't experience the emotions and joy that maybe I should have during that period of my life. So I just want to have fun always and, like I said, I did a values exercise at the end of the year last year, which I'd never really done, which is kind of funny, and it was abundantly clear to me Like fun was just joy, fun play, like all of that was so abundantly present in what's important to me. Yeah, absolutely. Oh, I love it. Well, um, so you're in Joshua tree. I am, yeah, what is it like to live in Joshua tree? I wanted to include that before we, before we roll out and talking about fun and life and all that trusting your choices to do the things you want yeah, well, what's interesting is the intent was to never live out here full time.
Speaker 1:My husband and I were living in LA and in 2019, early 2020, we had started contemplating buying property out in the desert, out here, and the original thought was that it would just be a weekend escape for us. We didn't want to like turn it into an Airbnb or anything. We just wanted a place where we could escape the city, be close to nature my husband's a musician somewhere he could be loud, um, you know, and not upset the neighbors. And and when? When the pandemic happened and accelerated a desire to okay, maybe we just get the house as a place to get out of the city, because everything was closed in LA for a long time.
Speaker 1:I was fortunate, and still am fortunate, that I'm able to work remotely. I don't have to be in the office, despite what a lot of headlines are saying about return to the office. I don't work for an employer who requires me to be in the office, and sometimes I have to travel, but that's not a big deal, but it's honestly been so peaceful. It's hard at times. The desert is a very harsh environment. I mean you think about the plant life and diversity of creatures that live here, that have to endure a lot of harshness, that live here that have to endure a lot of harshness. I mean we went from. Yesterday was a high of 50 and it rained all day, with lows in the thirties, and it snowed in the mountains. I don't live in the mountains, though, and today is 70 degrees.
Speaker 1:You know we're we're in our spring. I know, technically spring is this week, but we're in our spring, while the rest of the states is largely in winter still, and when y'all are experiencing spring, we're experiencing our first wave of summer. I call it first summer before we go into health summer, july to September, where it's 110 degrees every day. So there's a lot of harshness about the experience, but it creates an environment for you to truly empty out, like, truly pour out, like I'm able to literally just like unpack all of my shit. And I would say the living here has given me the opportunity to accelerate my healing. That I don't know would have been possible had I been living in LA or another city, because I had space literal and physical space to put it all out there and come face to face with a lot of those parts.
Speaker 1:And I would say, you know, during the pandemic, if you were um, co-living with somebody, whether that's a romantic partner or a boyfriend, there was a lot of separations that happened and a lot of like reinforcement of relationships, and I would say it was really fortunate. I'm really fortunate to have a partner now who leans in when, when things get hard and challenging, and so for both of us it was an empty out and, selfishly, we've always, both of us have always wanted to live close to nature. We lived in Colorado for a long time for a very specific reason to be close to nature. We, you know, we love to hike and camp and backpack. And we moved to LA and could have lived anywhere in LA.
Speaker 1:But we thought if we're going to move to the coast, we're going to live close to the beach, even if that means we have to spend a bit more on an apartment or our housing to make that happen, and feel very fortunate to be able to make that happen. And so we lived a mile from Venice beach and we would go to the beach every Sunday and sometimes we weren't getting in the water. By the way, la water is cold, the ocean is cold, unless it's, you know, the summertime. Even then it's still cold. Just to go to the beach, like, just to put our feet in the sand, put our feet in the water. We would make that pretty much a Sunday ritual, as much as we could make that happen. And then, when we were debating, do we give up our place in la and just live here temporarily, full time? It was an easy yes for us because we were selfishly saving money and it was not as expensive to live out here. But I'm 20 minutes from the entrance to Joshua Tree National Park. I have a view from my living room where I can literally I'm looking off to the side, where I can see the Northern Mountain Range of Joshua Tree National Park. So I just feel very fortunate that that's a part of what's important to us and to your point on play and joy and fun. Being able to have that is important wherever we are in life Uh, even if we choose not to stay here long-term, but it's, I'd say.
Speaker 1:The hardest part, as of late, is community, because you live so much further away from people than you might if you were living in a city and I guess you could argue in LA. If you have friends on the West side and you're on the east side, there's not a lot of hanging out because nobody wants to sit in an hour and a half of traffic one way. But it can be hard because you've got a very dynamic population that lives out here. You've got rural America and then you've got people who lived here during the pandemic, like myself. Here during the pandemic, like myself. There's a lot of artists and musicians that live out here and, uh, finding ways to meet like-minded humans can be hard, especially as adults. I think there's plenty of things out there that say making friends as an adult is hard, but I've been lucky.
Speaker 1:The gal who's my esthetician I love to pieces, but she also, um, um, she and I, um, she contracts me to do sound baths and yoga for Airbnb groups, which is really love, lovely, um, to be able to offer that, um, I teach out of the yoga studio that's in the town that I'm in specifically. That's really, um, really great spot to build community and I've met some amazing people and the building that the studio is in is owned by a really awesome couple who, um, also own a record store in town which my husband loves to frequent. So there's like just really beautiful community here and it is growing, like a lot of smaller towns are growing and it's really exciting to be in a place and feel like you can make an impact and an impression on a place and extend that reach and those gifts beyond just the power of the internet to real people, cause I always say I love online things, but I feel I like being in person when it comes to a lot of the tools that I offer people, when, when you live remote, you have to get creative about what that look, what that looks like, because you can't do in person nearly as much. But, yeah, it's been a very dynamic and emotional and powerful and fun ride. Living in Joshua dream? Yeah, I bet it would be. And I love what you said about you had physical space and how much it's been a part of like your healing journey and everything like that maybe accelerated it or really allowed you to go a little bit deeper into it, because the environment in which we live is very important for that. You know what we're around, who we're around, what we get to do. It is really important, I think for sure. Yeah, yeah, it totally is. There is an aspect of your human design chart that talks about what environments are best for you too, so it's an area that people can deep dive as well. If it's, they're curious what environments they thrive in, and is a change of environment important to your productivity or not? Or do you do you work better if you're in the same place all the time? Yeah, that's huge. That's cool.
Speaker 1:Well, brent, thank you for sharing all of these amazing nuggets and analogies and wisdom and um, we covered a lot and um, it's really, really an honor to have you on today. I think a lot of people are going to love this episode it's so good. So you have some offerings coming up, perhaps some launching things coming up, and if people wanted to work with you, can they and how can they and where can they find you and all that good stuff? Yeah Well, thank you for having me today, lauren, too. It's been so much fun to get to catch up to and share what's on my heart.
Speaker 1:Yeah, so I do have a couple of things launching. I have one thing that's coming out the week of the 18th, which is my Aura Archetype Human Design Reports. They're great for the human design curious folks who maybe aren't quite ready for a reading and want to do a little bit of self-study themselves. So I'll have two reports that are launching that anybody can purchase from my website it's just britcapricom and then I will be, over the course of the next few months, launching readings, as well as some coaching offerings in different container types one-on-one and group coaching related to human design and creative dualiship, as I like to call it, and so keep the lookout there, but if anyone wants to follow along, they can visit my website, which is BritCapricom, or follow me on Instagram, which is Brit Capri, as well, and it's Brit, with one T B R I T.
Speaker 1:Ooh, yeah, good point, man. It's going to be incredible. Like that is going to be huge, especially just the creative doula ship or you know whatever I don't know ship. We want to add the doula ship to the end, but I mean, that's going to be huge for people. What a great thing to be offering, so excited for you. That's awesome, thank you. Yeah, I'm very excited to feel very grounded in these offerings and excited to share them with the world and people who are hungry for them and for you giving me the chance to talk about them. Yeah, awesome, thank you. No-transcript.